Resources
The books, educators, and gear I recommend.
These are the resources I share with clients, on kink, relationships, sex, and living with intention.
NOTE: Some links go to adult sites, 18+ only.
Read
Books & workbooks
Tap any title to find it on Amazon.
Kink
- Authentic KinkWorkbook · Princess Kali
- Enough to Make You BlushPrincess Kali
- Sacred Kink: The Eightfold Paths of BDSM and BeyondLee Harrington
- The Ethical SlutJanet W. Hardy & Dossie Easton
- The New Topping BookDossie Easton & Janet W. Hardy
- The New Bottoming BookJanet W. Hardy & Dossie Easton
- The Ultimate Guide to KinkTristan Taormino
- Uniquely Dominant: Being a Dominant in a D/s RelationshipMs. Rika
- Wild Side SexMidori
Relationships
- Fierce IntimacyTerrence Real
- Mating in CaptivityEsther Perel
- PolysecureJessica Fern
- The New Rules of MarriageTerrence Real
Sex
- A Billion Wicked ThoughtsOgi Ogas & Sai Gaddam
- Come as You AreEmily Nagoski, PhD
- Sex Outside the LinesChris Donaghue, PhD
- Tell Me What You WantJustin J. Lehmiller, PhD
- The Ultimate Guide to Prostate PleasureCharlie Glickman, PhD & Aislinn Emirzian
Life
- Atomic HabitsJames Clear
- Crucial ConversationsJoseph Grenny, Kerry Patterson and others
- Ego Is the EnemyRyan Holiday
- How to Know a PersonDavid Brooks
- OutlivePeter Attia, MD & Bill Gifford
- The Anxious GenerationJonathan Haidt
- The Body Keeps the ScoreBessel van der Kolk, MD
- The Comfort CrisisMichael Easter
- The Let Them TheoryMel Robbins
- The Psychology of MoneyMorgan Housel
- Why We SleepMatthew Walker, PhD
- You Are Not So SmartDavid McRaney
Learn & connect
Kink education, events, & community
Education & coaching
- The Evolutionary Dominatrix Academy with Damiana Chi
- Midori Education and coaching
- Princess Kali Education, coaching and connecting with others in pro work
Events
- Dark Odysseydarkodyssey.com
- DomCondomcon.com
- Tethered Togethertetheredtogether.net
Connection & information
- FetLifefetlife.com
- Submissive Guidesubmissiveguide.com
- The Duchytheduchy.com
Play
Toys & gear I love
Sex toys & gear
- Avana Waterproof Throw BlanketAmazon
- Avant ToysBlush
- Hitachi Magic Wandhitachiwand.com
- Vixen Creationsvixencreations.com
- Strap-on harnessesAslan Leather
Kink toys & gear
- BDSM toys & gearBLL Enterprises
- Impact & sensation toysBA Design Store on Etsy
- Bondage beltsLeather by Danny